Spring is coming and getting on with what you want to achieve this year, well a month has slipped by already. Perhaps you’ve been stopped in your tracks by a number of things, winter blues, poor health, too busy, the tax return, and on it goes.
But no doubt you want this year to end differently to last year. And as much as life may have happened to you, or come at you, there is no time like the present for getting down to what you’re going to do about it. Now are you ready to take some action? First off, what do you want to address, here are some prompts:
- Your health
- Your relationship/s
- Your work
- Your income
- Your eating
There may be more than one on your list, so start here, by assessing which feels most important, i.e. if you’re unwell but you know that despite it you would feel better if you were happier in your work, then you’d start with work. Thus starts the digging, where once you become more specific you can dig more into finding the right solutions for you.
Obviously you already know how to take pen to paper and make a list, but it’s funny how it gets put off in favour of the ironing or some other excuse for a fundamentally mind-numbing chore?
But this article is designed to motor you on into making a start, by encouraging you to think of the end-game, which makes taking those first steps so worthwhile, because dare I say it (no corn intended) you are deightfully worth it!
Setting your intention
Let’s get clear!
Setting your intention for the year equals making some decisions. What are you determined is going to be different that will lead to feeling better in yourself? After all you’ve done it before, you’ve made changes in the past willingly or otherwise. But because this is intentional you get to make up your own rules, you’re in control, amd I’m going to suggest something you may not have used before in order to get fully clear and present:
Sit quietly and tune into what you’d like to be different about just ONE topic, as we said earlier although there may be more than one, decide what will make the overriding difference. Take the situation as it is now and notice:
- How does it feel?
- How does it sound?
- What does it look like?
- How would it feel to change it?
Now take that sense and give it a code name, write it down.
Take hold of your journal (if you haven’t got one on the go have a look at those shown in the margin)… or a sheet of paper (you’ll pop back into your journal as I’m going to do with my example below). Make a mind map with the issue at the centre, then draw legs out to all the elements that drive you bonkers in this area.
This step is useful if you’re not yet engaged enough to motivate yourself. Take a sheet of A4 and draw a line down the middle, put the usual suspects of how pants you feel around the issue on the left and make a list of what will be different in each of these areas once you’ve got to the heart of the matter (on the right) or any way round that works best for you.
Go to each leg and number it 0-10 in how much of an issue / hold up (where 0=pain-free and 10=the worst it could be in terms of blocking your overall objective). Then take the largest numbered item and do the same again, i.e. drill down again with another mind-map. Take any insights of what you could be doing differently.
Having drilled right down, check back with the original mind-map and see what’s changed when you scale the numbers on that list now. Focus on what’s changed, rather than what hasn’t, to continue retraining the brain for more positivity?
Sit quietly again and tune into what’s changed and notice:
- What feels different now?
- How does it sound?
- What does it look like?
- How do you know it’s changed?
Having got some crucial lifestyle habits under control my mind-map example (below) focuses on my practice, which is ready to have a myriad of writing be better organised so that I can roll it out in an order that makes-sense.
My pain and you might resonate is in wanting to share more of my why, which along with loving my clients, training groups and writing is a deep-seated need to be a better human being for my nieces and help them avoid some of the potholes I fell into before fitting together their own puzzle pieces in the jigsaw we call life. And getting better at communicating that one can be a bit of a mire, did I say mire, I meant mare lol.
NB: The numbers rate the order I’m going to deal with them, not the scaling process.
Fitting this into a busy schedule I’m going to say I’ll have completed this over the next 4-wks, I’ll be back to check on yours then too. What are you going to crack on with in the meanwhile? And by-the-way (btw) this bit is the hardest part of making change… yep making the decision to just get on and do it.
If you aren’t motivated enough now then come back to it when you’re more ready to play along with the steps I’ve shared.
But if having gone through these steps you’re feeling rock’n’roll ready to make it more real I offer a Taking Action session… that you can check out by clicking the link
I want to encourage you to flourish in every sense of the word, so comment below to report back with your fab updates as I’d love to know how you get on with making something real come from taking these small incremental steps on showing up for you.
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