Hello and welcome. This is where I introduce myself and say a little about my journey into personal development work.
For decades I thought I was broken
that’s how it felt
until I changed it
Finding my way out of of a challenging adolescence where the tools for change weren’t remotely a thing back then is what lit the blue touch paper. Long story short I love the different flavours people bring to the table and I’m moved when someone starts hatching out of their shenanigans – we all start there – which clears the way to give ourselves over to what we truly want which makes life exciting. But quite honestly it’s not for everyone, even though we all have a need.
Being on a mission to succeed in your career, raise a healthy family, demonstrate heart and humility in your relationships, and step into owning your fab is a balancing act. As a late-bloomer stepping into my full potential has embarked me on a journey of self-discovery where my life has evolved into a road less travelled.
As we age dysfunctions show up more, acting as a prism through which even the best intentions can impact your health and wellbeing. Let’s call it your shenanigans, your loola, your malarky, the name isn’t important but changing it is where the rubber hits the road.
Whatever’s happening around the mind-body-behaviour is an inbuilt barometer you’ll use to gauge the difference as you see off chronic – stress-based – patterns, habits and symptoms you can learn how Brian succeeded here. Our shenanigans don’t lie, they’re either present or they’re not.
Once dealt with a world of opportunity opens up and seeing it happen sooner than later gives you more time to play with and develop what you really-really-want.
It’s what I spent much of my life fathoming, and the wide range of trainings I took over 10-yrs and the tools I share with clients saved my hide in all fairness.
Previously I spent a decade as a Youth Trainer in Manchester during the 1980’s, back when you could get In-Wear at Pauldens. I remember loving a long black and royal blue plaid box coat I got at Kumar Brothers on Piccadilly for a fiver. I’d taken a 2-yr Fashion C&G and made most of my clothes which I loved crafting until my interests switched to the food industry.
The NVQ’s turned up and deemed it too costly to renovate the kitchen canteen I ran in-house. I turned to higher education with my sights set on teaching and enrolled on a BSc (Hons) Home Economics degree. It was a challenging experience where a number of sideways swipes brought me full-circle right back to people.
I can’t emphasise enough how important it is to know
you’re not broken
other people’s exasperation sometimes decrees it
but they know not what they say
I kid you not
The issue’s we can’t fathom are as a result of the domino effects imposed by stress which come from our emotionally charged histories pitted against a juxtaposed position taken by western medicine and it’s random take on health.
I’m not down on doctors – they’re the first port of call for a diagnosis or an emergency surgery – but it needs to find better joined-up thinking around the (once you see it you can’t un-see it) connectivity that the whole-person approach is leaps and bounds ahead with.
How can we be physically ill and not mentally & emotionally experience the impact?
How can we be mentally ill and not feel it in every sinew as we recoil shutting ourselves away from human interaction like a wounded animal challenging our extraordinary physiology to cope?
It’s important to consider how much medicine thrives as a business, where magical medications and remarkable technology’s are hailed as the next big fix. For example if you Google it you’ll discover a myriad of effective cancer treatments that bypass chemo and radio-therapy in favour of making fundamental changes in nutrition, healing old emotional scars, and making healthier human connections. In my twenties I knew this on some level because you’d hear stories of people curing themselves but watching Cut. Poison. Burn in 2011 only served to confirm it.
My practitioner background
I started training in 2004 with Richard Bandler (co-creator of NLP) and UK Hypnotherapist Paul McKenna. I took Emotional Freedom Techniques – EFT Tapping training in 2008 (and trainer training in 2011). These two tools are fundamental to my practice. EFT is a fab tool for making deep and meaningful change, currently under review with the NHS testing body – NICE (National Institute Of Health Care & Excellence) – trialing it PTSD symptomsI wrote about PTSD and how it affected my family you can read about here. I’ve taught it to help clients and students for so many conditions and behaviours and look forward to seeing EFT Tapping becoming mainstream.
Hand on heart this ought to be taught to every child in primary school – and earlier – to combat stress and develop better self-care. It’s incredibly effective and efficient for self-managing a range of what children are increasingly leaving primary impacted by | anxiety | depression | obesity.
I took META-Medicine Training based on Hamer’s German New Medicine teachings – a stress diagnostic tool rooted in Embryology – that links the affected biological organ-tissue with the beliefs the subconscious takes on (to protect itself from the perceived danger) at the time of a stressful event
which may hardly even register – even more so with children
this is because when we’re traumatised the autonomic nervous system shuts down – we become quiet – trying to process what happened. When we come out of that we think it’s dealt with but the mind/body has other ideas. For example when you’re triggered by a seemingly nothing-comment-look-situation-person-food-stagefright it’s a subconscious recall harking back to one of these trauma based moments.
Trauma doesn’t necessarily stem from a big shock such as losing someone, it can be caused by something as innocuous as a teacher humiliating you in front of your class when mocking your spelling.
This isn’t demonising teachers, they’re among my best friends. We all have bad hair days, but it’s worth noting that even a tone of voice can traumatise. It’s not the event it’s how your subconscious reads it at the time, and how that plays out going forwards.
Medication is great for short-term acute symptoms emanating from injury, but chronic ailments are a different ballgame. We live among our triggers unaware until we decide to get to the core of what drives them.
We have to wonder why doctors aren’t given time to ask better questions that sit in the lifestyle prescriptions camp.
Doctors are caught between a rock and a hard place
But who’s going to call time on an increasingly archaic, costly, ineffectual health system?
Even obesity has a German New Medicine understanding behind how we gain weight which is what I use to great effect with clients. In term of overall health, our lifestyle matters, as does how we deal with inherent stress:
who we hang around with and the influence they have on us matters
what we eat and how it’s produced matters
the quality of our water matters
what we think matters
the circadian sleep pattern matters
making time for self-care matters
how we see ourselves matters
how we treat ourselves matters
how we allow others to treat us also matters
for the longest time I sought these fab solutions, but didn’t realise it, until I did
we are all a work in progress
I’m passionate about working with women and kids – especially performers – due to my family background and because of how much my early life experiences held me back. As a practitioner I’m innovative and adaptable and my current interests in screenwriting and improv have come out of how much EFT has helped me tap into something I didn’t even realise in me. It’s helped my language and words flow consciously, subconsciously and playfully which brings gentle humour into your life as you release the stressors.
Get ready get set
If any of this resonates then get in touch for a chat, let me know what you need. As a woman raised in a stereotypical 1950’s tradition, I was trained to serve early-doors, my mother was a waitress of Irish Catholic descent – who escaped through illness – interestingly.
You’ll find me on social media under @JaneUnsworth. I’m currently playing on LinkedIn, while dipping in and out of Pinterest. Let’s connect and see where you want to go from here.