N.L.P. for weight loss and learning from N.L.P. (neuro-linguistic programming) that language is an important aspect to bring your attention to, in order to lose weight naturally. Which you can do by keeping a look-out for what you catch yourself saying, unwittingly, and how we speak to ourselves through self-talk can make all the difference.
How you refer to your attempts at something you want to change is imperative and how you allow others to speak to you (even in jest) can make a difference, in particular take note of the put-down.
There may also be people in your life who feel threatened by your aim to make lasting change, do they unwittingly encourage you to fail? Perhaps their place in your social or family hierarchy depends on keeping you in a predictable place (for them). Or maybe they’ve had similar challenges, without success, and can’t help but pooh-pooh your efforts.
However, once you make the leap others will warm to your results over time, and it raises questions as to how much they truly care about your welfare, health and personal achievements.
Language is key
So continuing the theme of language, it’s been shown through techniques like Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and others that the subconscious-mind never switches off and one of it’s functions is to deliver exactly what you indirectly instruct it to through thought, speech and emotion.
With this in mind, the first word to deal with here is that of loss and here’s the dictionary definition.
- detriment, disadvantage, or deprivation from failure to keep, have, or get to bear the loss of a robbery
- something that is lost, the painting was the greatest loss from the robbery
- an amount or number lost, the loss of life increased each day
- the state of being deprived of or of being without something that one has had, the loss of old friends
- death, or the fact of being dead, to mourn the loss of a parent or grandparent
Applying this term to Weight Loss shows how there there could be a conflict between your ultimate goal, the process, and the outcome. And now you can see how this may affect your attempts at losing weight, where the wording indicates a gap or yearning for the lost weight!
This goes some way to illustrate how hard the subconscious mind will fight the conscious desire to return you to what it understands from your language through your thoughts, speech and actions, and one prime example might be the conflicted message it picks up when you want to cheat your diet.
The associations of loss
So you can see how loss has certain associations with sadness (at the loss) or the missing (lost weight) similar to the loss of a loved one, and using positive terms, phrases and words for the purpose, is something you can chose to focus more on.
If you spot anything that needs challenging on this front, we’re all human lol, please let me know and in exchange you can have a taster session for your efforts.
But for now here’s an exercise in language, let’s see what this does for you:
- Sit quietly for a moment (without any distractions where you can)
- If you’re comfortable with it just close your eyes for a moment
- Then just allow the word loss to come to mind
- What does it bring up for you?
- If you are getting deep feelings of loss or discomfort with the exercise, you can just stop, get up walk around and just change your state
- But if you can sit with it and just notice the associations you have with that word
- Then think about when you’ve lost weight in the past
- What did you miss about being overweight
- What did you have to deal with when you were slim that you don’t when you’re overweight
Make some notes because these are your personal triggers and it will be useful to help you progress away from old patterns.
Watch your language
Now this makes you super aware of the importance of language, in how you speak to others and especially yourself.
Although it doesn’t seem like very much, it makes a difference, if nothing else humour me here and see if you can notice how many times in a day you scorn yourself, put yourself down, dismiss something you do, or put other views above your own.
Start to make a log of this and you may be surprised at just how invisible you allow yourself to be, and sorry if there are any men reading this, but culturally, socially and economically, women are more likely (although not solely) likely to fall into these patterns.
So get hold of a notebook and just notice what, how and when you use self-effacing language and start to reclaim your opinions, they’re as valid as anyone else’s for sure. Opinions are just that, there is no right or wrong, they are based on values and beliefs that were taught to us by our caregivers when growing up, and they don’t always see us in the best light.
Let me know if you give it a go and how you find it, does it make a difference, does it take you out of your comfort zone and if so how does that feel?
If you want to learn more about how language works, in line with the subconscious programming, then you might want to have a look at Richard Bandler and John Grinder’s, the creators of N.L.P and how magical language is.
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