Stressful Times

Last Updated On: 25 March 2018

Time marches on and stress builds, which when it’s built into how we live our lives on a daily basis may well it comes up and bites you on the bum when you least expect it. And we often find that time factors like deadlines often loom at the heart of not feeling there are enough hours in the day, and an increasing number of us live this way long-term. Where does time go, and is it true there is no such thing as time anyway?

Where does time go?

How is it we’re in June already and the year seems to have gone nowhere … and whoever you speak to agrees and each has their own theory … 🙂 … what’s that all about?

What it really comes down to

There is no such thing as time because we only ever have the moment and that’s quite a concept to get your head around.  After all – people will say – if  we lived like that, we’d never achieve anything or get anywhere.   But is that what LIVING IN THE MOMENT really means.

Others would say that time is a concept that was imposed onto ‘society’ (in the broader sense), to bring order into an otherwise chaotic universe.  But what say you?

Living in the Moment

I’d say that living in the moment is something we can all achieve.   There I’ve said it.  But HOW you shout out, why would you want to and what benefits would it bring for you?

Have you noticed how much people just go through the motions of things they do every day.   We’re wired to tie a shoelace without giving it a second thought or drive the car along a familiar route, without even noticing how we got to the destination.

And as much as that can be handy for the mundane processes we need to carry out, there can be a tendency to be so much in the processing that we completely miss noticing anything that’s different, or fail to comment or even challenge.

Dashing around like Dr Who

This is especially important when interacting with people.   How many friends and relations do you have that treat you in the ‘same-old-way’ irrespective of what’s going on in your life, always assuming the same things about you, families do this all the time to each other and often keep each other compartmentalised in limited ways?

We’re all guilty of it … because it requires mindfulness … and less self-obsession.  Its true that we understand the world through our personal experience but sometimes tuning into ourselves means we forget to be empathetic, or kind, or even notice a difference or change in someone or something (especially if that difference doesn’t have a direct impact on ourselves).

But what is self-obsession, is it a means to understand the world or is it about being centre of our world and all others having to dance to our tune.  It often entails the need to be right but the funny thing is that everyone is right about their own perspective, so no-one can win on that one.

I spent far too many years living in my head, mulling over the wrongs that had been done to me, blaming others for how my life was playing out.  And then I WOKE UP!

But once we get past all of that (and the tools used here are incredible for helping with this) then we get to the real gold of what life has to offer.

As well as the answer to life’s question as per em>The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy – spoiler alert it’s – 42 🙂 its good to become calmer. Which brings less frazzle, less need to impress and more of a chance to be comfortable with yourself wherever you are.  The value is immeasurable and then everything you wants starts to graduate towards you rather than you going towards it or having to chase it.

Calm and Relaxed

I hope this makes sense … but the feelings I’m trying to describe are quite difficult to pin-point, because they’re intangible.  Its hard to miss an awkward feeling that held you back, once its gone.  How do you put words to that?  People say they feel lighter and brigher, because they just aren’t as troubled, life isn’t taken as seriously as it once was, and more adventure becomes possible.

Maybe you have some thoughts of your own as to how you felt when you made a significant change in your life!   It would be good to hear how you overcame whatever was holding you back from being your best self.  And if you’re not yet there … hang on in there because all you have to do is GO FOR IT! We can all have it all and although that sounds brash its perhaps the topic for another day.

I would ask you this. Do you really have to dashing around and have a diary crammed full of engagements in order to feel that you are alive?  And where does your sense of feeling alive come from?

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