What If EFT Does Work

Last Updated On: 17 March 2026

What I wish more people knew about EFT Tapping is its ability to get to the heart of what has kept someone going round on a loop of emotional stress.

It’s not a talk-therapy.

It’s more lets start where are you now therapy.

When we start there it cuts out a lot of what other therapeutic processes set a lot of store in.

But how does that help with stuck patterns or inherited stuck patterns.

Rather than talking about who did what to who, you can say what’s stuck, i.e. I don’t know what it is but I’m stuck in this particular area.

Then you can diver better into when and where and with who it shows up.

Of course I’m not saying we aren’t all a mix of learned experiences, but some are yours and some are inherited from the elders.

Beliefs Are Make Believe

Beliefs stem from two sources:

• what you were told
• and what you experienced

The brain embeds them so strongly, so early, where we convince ourselves they’re facts, which they most certainly aren’t, but yes they truly feel like facts.

Getting underneath them is where the true you resides.

What EFT Changes

EFT Tapping doesn’t go into the psych of your mother caused this, your father caused that.

There is NO need to blame anyone.

In fact blaming harms ourselves, it keeps us disconnected, separate, isolated, sad, lonely and depressed. Connection is a strong indicator that someone is healing, where their sense of humour returns, their eating normalises, their sleep improves.

Not that not blaming stops you from wondering…

The issue with that is that your parents often just passed on what they believed to be good parenting, at the time.

No matter how dated their understanding seems now.

They did the best they could with what they knew at the time.

That’s important to remember.

Calming The Nervous System

I’m also not saying that some parents have hurt their kids, wittingly or not. We know now that good parenting requires more self-awareness from the parents to be better in themselves.

Again it’s where committing to personal development comes into it’s own. You want to be the model for your kids you wish you’d had when you were a kid, no doubt.

But wanting to be it and doing it, well it’s easier said than done, when you don’t have the tools, or willing to invest in learning them.

The difference with using a tool like EFT Tapping and there are many others out there – is that you deal with the issues you don’t want to unwittingly teach your kids, and heal yourself at the same time.

That’s a win:win and I’m here for it, because it only pays dividends in the long run.

What Does An EFT Session Consist Of

Having an EFT session starts with now and it’s not to say it won’t find where something came from in the past.

But the past is the past and EFT will support you by focusing on the now.

What you want now is what truly matters.

Just talking over the past can feel fruitless when it’s been dragging on for some time.

What EFT does is, help you pick up the gauntlet and run with it.

Being stuck is like being a hamster of the proverbial wheel and no-one wants that for themselves or their nearest and dearest.

To say nothing about how out-of-whack moods impact the children in your life, no matter how much you think you’re shielding them from it.

This is because a child can be oblivious to what they’re living through consciously.

But the subconscious is keeping score and this will come out at some point, even if it’s decades later.

That’s what happens.

It’s on you, me, all of us to treat yourself better and to deal with what isn’t working in your real life and work to bring harmony now.

EFT is a lovely way to go with that. If you now feel curious and want to know about how you can be in the room, live in the moment, live the life you were meant to, dm me to arrange a q