Amy Winehouse didn’t have the levels of self-esteem to match her incredible talent and developed highly unhelpful behaviours that numbed her from owning it
I saw Amy Winehouse at Glastonbury in 2008, she and Joan Armatrading were the cherry-on-the-cake in my intention to see the great, now late, Leonard Cohen perform on his coming out of retirement to recoup the lost funds where his management company had ripped him off, while he was away in the mountains for 5-yrs. He gave an amazingly present performance.
Conversely, Amy Winehouse was the antithesis. Yes it was great to be able to see and hear her, but she wasn’t well and her show was cut short, due to a misunderstanding with an over-exuberant fan towards the front of the crowd.
What a waste!
Because I chose to play the fool in a six-piece band,
First-night nerves every one-night stand.
I should be glad to be so inclined.
What a waste! What a waste!
But I don’t mind.
Ian Dury & The Blockheads
Like so many of her predecessors, Miss Winehouse was lost, and no matter how brilliant her talent, her personal light faded into: confusion; paranoia; that found her on a hiding to nothing.
Working for your art
As a performer, creative and/or writer you know how the two worlds of your personal and professional lives can conflict. On the one hand you’re working your socks off getting to where you want to be, and it takes blood, sweat and tears doesn’t it?
On the other you’re building a life, of balance, and personal harmony.
But are you trying to balance ALL the spinning plates because:
- You’re having to be up earlier than everyone else, and in bed when everyone else is out playing?
- You’re working into the night, when everyone else is relaxing?
- You ARE the entertainment?
- You feel at a loss once the show is over?
- You’re triggered into self-destruct patterns?
- You want more balance in your life?
- You have those private moments of self-doubt?
- You feel you’re paying too high a price for your talent?
- You are unable to maintain a long-term healthy relationship?
- You want to have and provide a stable life for your kids?
- You want it all?
And why shouldn’t you want it all?
It doesn’t have to be one OR the other, but it takes work to make all the elements come together, so that you can get the best out of your time, inside and outside of the limelight, with both feet firmly planted. And you have a strong work ethic.
Bringing all the elements of your ideal life together under one umbrella of accomplishment, means paying attention to the not so strong areas, as well as the ones you can do standing on your head.
Sometimes work takes over and personal shenanigans gets neglected. And left unattended it goes into downward spiral mode, and can leave you flailing. Getting back into a life flow is immensely important.
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I offer an immensely private and confidential service offering you a chance to tweak what isn’t working. Then you bring what’s out-of-sync back into balance.
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