Don’t Go Changing

We’ve all heard the New Year, New You philosophy… There’s something a tad old-hat and last century about it these days. Like every other commercial incentive on the market, we’ve been there, done that and bought into the t-shirt.

Yet according to the Statistic Brain Research published in December 2016 the above figures show the likelihood of success from making change from making new year resolutions. And although there’s a 49% failure rate, it tells us that 10% of people who keep trying will finally succeed. A little dreary.

I have to make two points: (1) What are they doing to change, and (2) Hos are they approaching it?

(1) What are they doing to change?

I wonder how many people keep coming back to the same old, same old tools to give them another go, i.e. how many people join gym’s at this time of year, or go back to a tried and trusted, yet clearly unsuccessful dieting programme, expecting something to change. That approach doesn’t work, and then people become more sceptical about making change. Why would you

Why would you expect something you’d done before to work next time, because you know that just says that you’re broken, and you’re not! But there’s not point in taking out another gym subscription for that momentary new year rush, only to find it’s sitting in the draw by mid-February, feeling sorry for itself, while you watch the monthly fee fritter away, again. Which brings me to the second point.

(2) How are they approaching it?

If you’ve used approaches that haven’t worked for you then you need to do some more research, make some appointments, talk to people. Find out what’s going on in the world of change today, that will deliver up what you’re wanting to experience and see change instead. Not being self-promotional here but I’ve trained in a vast range of 21st century tools for making change that got me out from the emotional funk I had for decades. They’re shown by clicking through here…

Google more info, make a list of people to speak to, go for it, if you want to start the year with a new broom. What those statistics don’t show is what people used, how they dug in, and how often. It’s not just making change it’s finding something that is suited to you, your needs and your budget.

Washing off what’s still not working

That’s probably because there is something about a new year that encourages a clean page, and new chapter feel, where all of your imagined (and real, because you have to imagine it to make it real) potential sits begging to be let out of it’s cage.

In 2016 the political scene turned toxic. So shaking that out feels good, in terms of using it as a wake-up call for all things passe, let’s get with the programme, do you feel that too?

Washing off the past is easier said than done in some instances. For example, I can certainly stop watching the news and reading the papers for my political updates, or listening to a few well-chosen purveyors of all things journalism.

So what’s stopping you?

Personal change is different because poor habits are easily formed in times of need, i.e. you feel highly stressed from a relationship break-up and start overeating, drinking too much, not sleeping well. They can become hard-wired and difficult to break once they’ve formed into a low-energy poor coping strategy that comfort you in some inexplicable way, regardless of how well they’re justified.

Think about the most common new year habits people chose to break, weight loss, finding love, stop smoking, breaking toxic relationships, taking more exercise, getting unstuck from work patterns that are killing your mojo.

The most popular habits people want to change

These are all habits or patterns that you can change anytime of the year, so why New Year? But there is something fresh and open about a new diary, a blank page of potential that connects with us all in terms of what we want the next year to provide that the previous one hasn’t.

Of course if you’re genuinely happy, not because you’ve given up and it’s easier to believe it, i.e. you’ve settled, then that’s a rather wonderful thing. Celebrate!

How successful will you be

From those statistics it’s clear that the older people get the less they aim to make change, at least through the process of resolutions. And doesn’t that say that people get fed up with failing over time and decide that resolutions do not work. Yet the statistics showed otherwise, from which I guess people get more disillusioned to make changes at this time.

I’d say this… if not now when? Why wait until your health has reached an emergency status, because if you fall ill with fewer health reserves, then you have less to fall back on in times of need. And more importantly it far easier to change on your time, than when your health is below par and it’s being ordered in addition to whatever else is going on.

How well do people’s resolutions hold up?

What do you want this year? How do you plan to go after it? Have you pursued it before? What happened, why didn’t it work out? What is it about previous attempts that puts you off giving it another go? Here’s a little spoken of element about making change, whether you chose to do it now, later, or never.

The hardest part about making change is making the decision and where necessary finding an effective process that will get you from A to C or even A to Z…

Confronting it is the key element!

Jane

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PS – Directing your own destiny begins by arranging a quick 15-min chat which kick-starts having more energy to develop what you really, really want.

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