Recently I was having one of those casual throw-away types of conversations with someone while waiting for somebody else. She’d been shopping for the afternoon, and began saying how she’d been trying to kerb her shopping habits of late, as kept finding herself buying things for the sake of it rather than through genuine need or liking. She described how she goes into a daze during the process.
Then she asked am I addicted? And it got me thinking about the way we laugh off things like a shopping addiction, after all it’s just shopping – right?
What Is Addiction
We’re probably less inclined to see a shopping addiction or associate the label shopaholic in the same tone as we might a drug addiction / addict with it’s anti-social implications, or over-eating, smoking, drinking, gambling and a range of others.
Those behaviours are more obvious sometimes dramatic in how they impact the economy both socially and economically, as well as the affects they may have on the lives of an individual and their nearest and dearest. But where something as innocent as a little retail therapy is concerned, we barely turn a hair.
Isn’t It Normal
After all shopping is a widely accepted practice carried out by everyone to a greater or lesser degree, whether its alone, with friends or in family groups? Isn’t it a key activity that most people enjoy, enabling us to buy the essentials, kill time at the weekend and offer a good excuse to go check out the latest fads and fashions in food, clothing, gadgetry, and home entertainment, and sometimes indulge in a some pure luxury.
Carol Look an EFT master, trainer and psychologist talked about this topic during the 2010 World Tapping Summit and defined an addiction thus:
“A habit only becomes classified as an addiction when we want to stop a behaviour and find that we can’t”.
And she went on to talk about the chemical changes that happen with addictive behaviour and how it starts much earlier in the day than when the behaviour actually plants the seed.
So we may liken it to the notion that we deserve a treat and the mind probably plays quite a few rounds on why we deserve it and various other ramblings that the subconscious uses to justify itself.
The bottom line is, we are programming it from a certain moment in time and it keeps building (which I’d liken to anticipation), until we finally carry out the deed and then – wham – it’s done and a completely different set of ramblings kick-in.
Next to arrive on the scene are the negative feelings of guilt, pain, anguish or stress. On top of this there may be mounting debt, or even sadder, not opening or using the items, as they remain unused.
No matter how many times we replay the programme, we may come to realise that it does not fulfil the need, maybe it hides low self-esteem, or the need for some excitement and change of routine, boredom.
Have you got your shopping under control, or are there other issues going on, only you will really know the answer to that one?
Is It The Same
If your shopping addiction has spiralled out-of-control then it’s fair to say it may just be a problem of an addictive nature, but the good news is that it can be stemmed, because it has been caused by something at some time that led you to the behaviour to avoid the pain of what was going on.
And this applies to any addiction. The good news it’s all reversible and workable, and it helps to know that when it comes to making the change and it is reversible.
Do You Want To Change Yours
If you have a habit, compulsion or addiction that you’d like to address, just contact Jane here and arrange for a chat.