Have you seen the 1960’s film Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Wolfe featuring a couple trapped in a cycle of constant bickering and viscious argument. It was ground-breaking back then, but how many couples do you know whose relationship relies on some of that to some degree, scorning the other for a weakness in themselves.
Yet who doesn’t love the company of a couple who allow each other the freedom to speak for and be themselves? How many relationships are actually like that though and if not why not?
The Quality Of Your Relationships
Being in harmony with ourselves has a great deal to do with the quality we not only bring to a relationship, any relationship, but also the types of people we attract towards us, just like a magnet.
This alone is a highly important reason to work on yourself, your attitudes and the way you interact with the world, especially when it’s not working as you’d like.
After all how many of us were lucky enough to grow up in a family that wasn’t dysfunctional in some way? Not many I’ll bet, but it doesn’t mean anyone is to blame, for a variety of reasons:
- It’s the way we’re wired
- Child rearing doesn’t come with a manual
- Everyone but everyone does the very best they can at the time, with the tools they have, from the perspective of their own experience of the wider world
- It’s a long hard job full of cause, effect, and inherent patterns
- Inept coping strategies are often passed down through the family line
What Impact Do They Make
Poor quality relationships, albeit at work, with a family member or the relationship with your partner can have a devastating impact. You may also find you’re attracting similar types of behaviours in new relationships, that keep you stuck in a cycle.
And don’t be surprised if you get triggered into having some physical symptoms weaving in and out, such as pain, chronic symptoms, or being susceptible to colds, throat infections, a bad back, pain and so forth.
If you’re feeling stressed or have recurring physical symptoms there is often a link and when you realize that connection, it’s delightful, because it can change.
What Else Is Being Affected
A toxic relationship is just that and if if you have one that’s triggering disruptive feelings in you, then it’s likely to be having an impact on your overall well-being. Another example of the unwanted effects are found in your environment where the following may have happened:
- Your confidence takes a dive
- Losing the desire to socialize
- Becoming more withdrawn and insular
- Hardly recognizing yourself now from who you were
Of course long-term stress can lead to disease or encourage poor habits such as comfort eating, drinking and more. You may feel less safe in your environment, or lose interest in a job you once loved, all sorts of things can develop. But it’s all addressable, because each and every component has a logical connection, and you’ll learn what has created it as you become free from it.
The approach here leaves you in a much stronger position for moving your life forwards. And once addressed, your energy completely changes and stops attracting the same-old-same-old. Instead you start creating much better relationships and opportunities, as the unwanted just fades.
And in case there are people you’d rather not lose altogether, this is not based on all-or-nothing, instead things can magically improve with people you never thought possible.
If you want to find out more about that just fill out the contact form and arrange an informal chat, so you can explore more about how it helps, you can ask questions, no pressure and you can discover if it would suit you.