Once the perimenopausal symptoms start kicking in the hormonal changes can affect your sex drive, affecting it one way or the other.
For example, once your periods have stopped some women find a new lease of life in terms of a certain sexual freedom. After all the overhanging threat of pregnancy and contraception has been lifted which often makes a world of difference.
Of course it’s a given that precautions are necessary where you’re in a new relationship, and still determining the sexual history of a partner. And of course you already know that one!
How much sex is normal
At this stage of life, as at any other, it’s on your terms. How often is dictated by your desires, there are NO Rules.
Your libido can increase or decrease around this time, and there are benefits either way. It’s okay either way, and at this point in your life where it slows down, it just means that you’ll enjoy it less often, but the intensity of orgasms and the pleasure element isn’t affected.
But if it is you need to look into it, because there’s likely to be something that’s more on the emotional side. And help is always at hand for that.
How does your sex drive work?
once this hormone has reduced
(although lubricant may be needed to make sex more comfortable).
Because androgen male hormones provide your sex drive which
continues to be produced in the ovaries throughout your life.
So when ovaries stop producing oestradiol and progesterone
at menopause your ovaries continue to produce androgens.
And you continue to have fun!
What if my sex drive changes
Well it can and it does change, and like everything else it depends on what else is going on in your life. For example many people separate and get divorced around this time, the children are grown, or hormonal changes mean we can no longer tolerate, or simply feel the same about someone.
When this happens, and depending on the circumstances, may well leave you in a different place, in terms of your libido.
Getting your libido back
Getting your libido back is a strong indicator of feeling yourself again, if you’ll pardon the pun. Some people find their sex drive increases with a new partner, and unfettered sex, without the worries mentioned earlier. It can be so freeing.
Others may feel almost the opposite, and want to retreat into their cave.
Either way, middle age and getting through menopause does offer up certain opportunities that weren’t necessarily available previously. And for some it turns into the most empowering time in life.
The thing to remember is that it’s your game, and having sex on your terms, according to how you feel is the biggest priority.
At this stage of life, it’s about living your life on your terms, not in a selfish way, but in a more empowering, time for you way.
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