How curious are you about life, the universe and everything? When you’re not in work mode do you welcome change, are you flexible or stuck, open or closed? Are you curious about life, world history, do you know what’s fake. Are you curious about your family, your parents lives before you, are you curious about your own life and what makes you tick?
My bigger world curiosity was triggered as a small kid when my older sister moved to New Zealand. She was uncontactable, apart from the much awaited flimsy air mail letters which fluttered through the letterbox periodically, as she and my mum corresponded their day-to-day’s.
One time my friend June and I sat in my dad’s car pretending to drive over to see her, until he spotted us and began shouting out from an upstairs window, his precious car, he terrified me then. June wanted to visit a far-flung Aunty and I was determined to see Mavis. Distance, smish-stance.
My curiosity deepened when my father died, an event that changes your entire landscape at any stage, it felt harsh at 13. No recourse, no possibility of asking why he didn’t look after himself better, seek a doctor’s diagnosis sooner, or what he has to say about his obstinacy in hindsight?
Does curiosity kill the cat?
My mum was of a time when proverbs were adorned as easily as a kitchen pinny (who even wears those anymore?) Sayings like:
- More haste less speed
- Two wrongs don’t make a right
- The early bird catches the worm
I expect you can relate? I’d brush them off as cliched and nonsensical, but like many things they’ve come into their own, except one; curiosity killed the cat still sounds more like a nothing to see here kind of a phrase.
Without curiosity where are we, who are we, and how do we even know who we are?
If we’re not curious about our own life, the outer world and our inner workings, how are we ever going to discover our true potential or what strategies are at play preventing us from having a richer engagement with life. So many people just go through the motions, and behind closed doors deal with their unknown in their own way. These are what I call unhelpful coping strategies, and we’ve all been there, are still there, or in the process of moving into more forgiving practices.
And the reasons behind these habits, behaviours or symptoms is due to believing that we’re not an okay person. Some people think they’re broken, or they have to live with a head full of haze and misdirection. Some people even believe their wonky-ness created our talents in the first place.
Many people uncover a talent while going through a tough phase where it provided a vehicle from which to express themselves, creatively. It was an outlet. That’s not to say that creativity hasn’t come from adversity, but it doesn’t leave once the adversity’s been let go of.
Conversely YOU are your talent, not the circumstances you found yourself in, even though it took you (or is still taking you) to some dark places from which you create
And that can’t be stressed enough!
The performers truth
Getting serious for a moment, these dark corners rob us of incredibly talented people, the world needs more of you not less. And it’s not only okay to meet your needs first and foremost, it’s vital if you’re going to survive.
And besides it’s really not all-that when you see the pity-party that ensues in the aftermath.
Seriously now, who wants that for a legacy?
Far better to make your way out of it. And as it happens I love sharing how much easier it is once you work with smarter state-of-the-art approaches like the ones I’ve been honing since 2004, which means you don’t have to.
Well okay I needed them first and what’s followed has woven into my history. But this STUFF is simple and so is how we’re wired, where unraveling your loola is far easier today than it’s ever been historically. Listen to Brian’s radio interview here if you want to know how long he suffered before we quickly changed his loola.
You do not in any way need to be stuck in your gunk in order to love growing your talent. Strangely the opposite tends to happen, where you flourish as you become more self-aware of what shaped your creative vision and the unique slant you bring to the party.
The more self-awareness a performer has in what makes them tick the more they bring to their performance platform, and to have that without losing yourself in it is magnetic both for the first hand experience of feeling connected and subsequently for an audience watching.
Lots of people believe that ignorance is bliss but it’s a luxury the performer who seeks to work from truth can ill afford to indulge themselves in.
In summary the performer today is beholden to become more curious, uncover the benefits of what that brings into their life, that of the company they’re working with, the production they’re working on, and the audience who are only too happy to support a performers longevity as long as the artiste allows it.
As a curious creature who took yourself into performing why wouldn’t you want to know more about the human condition, by letting go of the propensity we all have to complicate matters. Which brings in fresh energy, vitality to find the courage needed in fulfilling true potential. You ain’t seen nothing yet!
Your task is to ask yourself
- What’s broken in your life (it’s not you) that you hold onto?
- And why do you hold onto this pattern?
Let’s further qualify the task by asking you a double-edged sword of a question?
- What benefits are you getting from what’s broken?
Can you identify what you’re afraid you’ll lose by deciding to change the one recurring theme you come back to again and again?
And I’d like to ask you to safely share a little about the benefits you get in the comments below 🙂 You can be as obscure about the theme as you like, for example you can use a code name for it. And I’ll respond with suggestions you may find useful. And if you’re unsure about anything here I warmly welcome any healthy scepticism.
PS: I’d love to support you in getting rid of what’s not floating-your-boat, so that you can learn how to change what works against you and start tapping into your full potential.
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