Going for auditions and remaining authentic can seem like polar opposites, especially when you want a part so very badly.
Have you ever wondered how it always comes to pass that the more you care, the more on edge you get, the tougher it becomes.
Whereas having a laissez-faire, come-as-you-are manner yields far better results?
And isn’t it that once you’re in character you’re fine.
But relaxing before you’re required to get into character is where the wonky nervousness creeps in?
How do those prior interactions roll, during the small talk, especially when you’re feeling vulnerable nay ill and just want to be left alone.
Why does it keep happening?
It really comes down to prior experience… How did you learn to step up for an audition or take up public speaking, where there’s that element however brief of having to play YOU, rather than assuming a character?
But feeling nervous as hell, and the next thing you hear is “ACTION”… and ta-da you’re ON (phew got through another one)!
However, the niggling voice in the back of your head is worrying about the never getting a second chance to make a first impression scenario. And overall it can give a strangely skewed picture of who you are and what you bring to the party can’t it?
The more we repeat the pattern the more ingrained it becomes, it’s a Catch 22, but which do you want first the good news or the bad news… well it goes something like this…
The good news is that there is only you that can change it, and the bad news is that there is only you that can change it… B-boom!
You already knew that, but what may be news to you is just how easy it is to do… You can see Ruth below on how nervous she was about making videos for her fabulously creative Playcation business at Body Synergy, so she made a video to show the changes it brought about.
And as much as I ought to spare my blushes, because she says some kind things about what it was like working with me. This is more about showing you through someone else’s words, what can be achieved, with the approaches you’ll find here.
And the best thing of all is that all of the misery around what you’re putting off, because of the number of uncomfortable feelings that crop up, as well as the gut-churning, raised temperature, putting yourself through it, all disappear!
And what are you putting yourself through that for.. in order to… what!
In order to achieve something you really want because you know it’s tailor-made for you and your talents
It’s just that there hurdle that stops everything from falling into a natural flow where your genuine authenticity is bursting to make an appearance.
How to make it stop
You can alter this so that it’s an entirely different and easy experience, where you glide through your auditions so that you can make braver choices and stretch your performance range.
You’ll even forget how it used to feel. But let’s look at how you could play with the idea of changing it right now.
Have you ever been in the spotlight? Of course you have! But how do you handle yours?
- Is it a piece of cake?
- Are you a mixture of nerves and excitement?
- Or are you shaken out of yourself into behaving in an alien manner to who you are in your day to day life, or how you behave once you’ve secured a part, as you get on with the business of show?
If it’s the latter, there are tactics you can use, like taking deep breathes, sipping water, taking a quiet moment, using an affirmation or three.
All of these and more besides work for people to varying degrees. But those are in themselves strategies for coping rather than sorting the issue.
Because if it’s been running along on a hamster-wheel for a while, i.e. years, then the chances are that you need more.
And there’s nothing wrong with that, in fact it corrects the wiring so to speak, rewires the synapses so that they fire correctly, where you can get an Adrenalin rush without falling apart.
But when none of that works it’s time to dig a little deeper. It can be a tough gig, at least until you decide that you’re going to change it once and for all.
PS: I’d love to support you in getting rid of what’s not floating-your-boat, so that you can break through what holds you back, and watch your creativity soar.
Step up to the mark
Are you feeling ready to ditch the emotional roller-coaster, because this approach brings about a significant and noticeable difference?
Then click through on the button below and arrange a 20-min chat to put an end to the run of what’s no longer working in your favour.