Last week I spoke about going to the AAMET EFT Conference 2013, so I went and it turned out to be one of the best health conferences I’ve attended. It was great to see some old faces, meet new ones and hear so many great talks. I’ll post on each speaker over the coming weeks, the first speaker on Day One was Jacqui Crooke, one of (the rather lovely) Gary Craig’s EFT Masters (Gary being the founder of EFT).
She gave a talk about the work she does that takes her all over the globe as an AAMET EFT master, international speaker and trainer where she specialises in clearing old patterns of thought and behaviour, that block people from being successful in every area of their life.
It seems that we have similar backgrounds in that she also worked using Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP, before discovering EFT, which she came across in 1999. and she also says; ‘nothing’s been the same since’ … I so resonate with that one.
Jacqui runs retreats in interesting places and trains EFT in the UK and America, she presents at conferences worldwide and is one of the authors in the collaborative book EFT And Beyond.
Jacqui loves helping people to remember they are more than they think they are, she runs workshops and retreats worldwide and has a great time sharing her skills at conferences.
This is Jacqui’s heart-felt perspective:
Jaqcui Crook’s View
Jacqui Crooks has such a soft lilting voice, perfect for hypnosis, and very easy on the ears, something she said hit home with me.
She believes, we chose when to come in meaning when to come into this physical life, which seems to come from a particular spiritual school of thought which I’m open to knowing more about, and along these lines she went on to say that:
We chose the family with which to break family patterns, by what I’d call doing their own work meaning they’re committed to going as far as they possibly can in getting themselves healthy and free of past unhelpful patterns, relating to illness, disease and behaviours, which in itself does break old patterns picked up in the family. This includes unhelpful attitudes, illnesses, gut responses such as anger (when feeling their view is not accepted) and closed ways of behaving.
I’ll just take a moment here to talk about that in relation to the work I do with ACE (Accelerated Clearing Energetics), that I integrate wholly with EFT, because part of the ACE Process is to consciously recognise through a specific question, whether this pattern started with you or is it something you’re carrying ancestrally. And at the appropriate moment it asks this question:
Then you connect with the origins, at which point you can break the pattern and change it into something you’d rather have instead.
And when Jacqui put her ideas forward I had a sudden insight inside my extended family, and that maybe the one (and we all have at least one don’t we) who carries a classified mental health disorder and that they’re the one who breaks the family pattern/s, provided they’re prepared to work on it, otherwise the pattern remains.
I have a theory that is unsubstantiated with no evidence whatsoever (as far as I’m aware) that it’s the sensitive one in any family who contracts a mental health disorder in the first place.
And energy work already recognises that when we work-on-stuff, things change not only for the participant but in all the machinations of their relationships, after all aren’t those with mental health issues the ones least likely to fight back, assert themselves or speak out?
So once that person feels differently, the family members notice** and respond positively, everything can be different.
**Families have a tendency to be a tad oblivious when it comes to noticing change in each other, especially when their own sense of themselves has a vested interest in keeping-people-in-their-place.
But this is where things can really change, especially where someone in the family is part of the problem, and generally once you work on how that person affects you.
Not only does that person no longer trigger old responses in you, but their energy towards you changes, the warning here is it can be for the better or not.
If it’s the latter then it’s more than likely that they will somehow leave your life-circle (once you change the dance you’ve been in together).
Although this may sound a bit odd, they have also served a positive purpose through your association, because it assisted you in making the effort to make the change, and develop some true insight.
And because people can never make us feel bad-about-ourselves, so that when we get those feelings, it’s just something that person is signposting to us.
Meaning it’s never about them, it’s only ever your own stuff that needs addressing, as hard as that can be to hear! And if it changes for the better then that is a result worth celebrating!!! Either way things change!
So listening to Jacqui’s talk at the AAMET EFT conference this year, reminded me of that and well that voice, I could listen to her for hours!
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