Here’s a random question, who influenced Isadora Duncan?
Today I want to look at the importance of finding your own clarity in order to live life on your own terms, in your own way, from a place of authenticity. There’s some of the confessional that is easy for me to talk about now that I understand it and have released the emotional issues around those earlier events.
Sounds simple, but is it?
Growing up we are strongly influenced by the beliefs of our caregivers that shape your life to a greater or lesser extent.
But in adolescence some aspects often clash with the information you start gathering from other influences; friends, mentors, employers, hobbies, passions, relationships, etc.
And how have you dealt with these clashes in order to grow into the adult you have the potential to become, rather than a mini-me version of a parent, for example.
In other words we all carry around out-of-date understandings about who we are, your place in the world, and this can be wrought with unhelpful ways of treating yourself.
Whose tune are you dancing to
When I was in my late teens and early twenties, during the mid-seventies, I was enthralled by all things rooted in modern dance; The Ballet Rambert, Isadora, Nijinsky, The Ballet Russe, Nureyev, etc.
In a recent BBC documentary on the history of dance, Ms Duncan is accredited as it’s founder, as demonstrated by the only surviving clip of her in action.
But who influenced her?
One of the areas that seems to have driven Isadora Duncan was the poverty her family found themselves in when her parents separated. And from the age of 6 she and her two sisters taught dance lessons to other kids, to bring in some extra money.
An amazing story! Yet serves as a reminder of the straight-jacket culture which dampens creativity today
For me the above clip says it all. Because I did my fair share of floating around the ole dance floor, back in the day.
With a propensity for arm waving, I would dance barefoot. Well it was the early seventies, and The Hollies The Air That I Breathe gives a strong sense of the pace of things.
Now it’s easier to understand how Isadora’s wafting style came about, as it does connect with a dream-and-child-like quality of a child at play.
That is something that I easily relate to in terms of dreaming, optimism, and wanting the best outcome for all parties, where trust when I was younger, was easier on some occasions more than others.
And if you were hanging out in The Village on Talbot Road in Stretford around the same time you’d have found me somewhere in what became a B&Q.
I was a complete exhibitionist under the influence… which helped fuel my absolute need to dance, because I was so incredibly shy and socially awkward.
If this type of help had been around back in those days, I would have achieved more and known myself and the value of what I bring to a table much earlier.
Why have I mentioned all of this, because like many people, in effect I was flaying around in the dark, with very little guidance or hand-holding:
Whereas today I can’t underline enough the importance of boundaries
The blame game
I’m writing this today, because a lovely client I’m working with is indeed a dancer, she’s extremely passionate, and sometimes the intensity of feeling is so powerful, it consumes her body just as Isadora’s dance consumed hers. But instead it erupts and works against her.
I know that feeling only too well.
I blamed my mum for the longest time, for pretty much everything where I felt ill-equipped.
How can we stop blaming others
Among a range of tailored pieces of information I sent her to counter a particularly tricky few days, is a post she found useful.
She’s working through some knee-jerk reactions that have plagued her for the longest time.
We’re able to track them down quite quickly because what needs changing is showing up in her life on a daily basis.
This is one of the best things I like about using an Energy Therapy toolkit of approaches.
It focuses on what needs to change now, which in turn lays the foundations for a substantially improved quality of life going forwards.
When you’re on the hamster-wheel of over-thinking and wondering what caused what, like an unrelenting maze of Ground Hog Days and red herrings.
Instead things become crystal clear as we take responsibility and notice the part we’re playing in an issue. Your own dance!
Does it make sense? Perhaps you’re tangled up in a similar choreographed piece of your own, I know I was for decades, until I found these approaches.
It’s such a relief to be out of ‘that entanglement’ and sharing my findings because they allow the necessary breathing space to start noticing more.
Which leads to making better lifestyle choices, that equip you with a better understanding of the root causes of what drives the issue, and ultimately develops into finding more personalised solutions.
We are all our own choreographers, which is empowering in of itself, especially once you start to make some sense of where the story starts and ends, and without any spoiler alerts, your story sits firmly in your hands.
But here’s a question that requires some quiet-time-out to reflect on…
Are you ‘truly’ dancing to your own tune?
Because that’s where real FREEDOM starts…
Step up to the plate
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