There’s an interesting tendency that when things don’t go our way we look for external forces to blame, but what if I was to say that everything that is happening in your life right now, was created by, you’ve guessed it, yes you.
And what if I was to also say that changing the things mentioned below would lead to both a better quality of life and ultimately it’s the anti-aging serum? Take a moment to see how much of what’s written below is affecting your life right now. You might just start to agree.
It’s a lot to take in right? And yet at some deeper level you know this is the shocking truth and one that you may well have all manner of strategies in place to avoid facing.
Well if we’re all to blame for our lot, as it were what can be done to change things?
This is where it gets good
Because we create our own life, emotional welfare, stress, relationships and beyond, it means that only we ourselves can alter it. Again that is not something that outside forces can change.
Scientific geneticists used to belief that the DNA in the cell determined who we were born to be, that things were determined by the gene pool you were born in to. But the new sciences that are springing out from the field of Quantum Physics, such as Epigenetics, has found out something quite different and simultaneously encouraging.
It’s the environment that the cell exists within that determines behaviour
Internally this means the food we eat, our digestion, stress levels, the amount of movement we give our system to keep what is effectively our individual internal factory operating at full capacity.
- And for this we might want to look at our nutritional input, are we covering the essential vitamins and minerals that are known to keep organs functioning as they should?
- Are we eating regularly enough at intermittent times throughout the day?
- Do we get enough exercise that ensures the Pulmonary system is working at full tilt?
Looking after the internal world is your remit, you get to decide exactly what goes into the body and this includes all the external products you use on your skin, hair, nails, etc, because the body can’t help but absorb those products, so you might want to check and see if you’re inadvertently poisoning yourself in some small way too.
And this brings us to the outer world of life.
Are you dealing with the emotional turmoil that leads to long-term stress, an inherent feature of 21st century living.
There are so many components in life that can trigger us into what become long-term patterns of stress, and lead to illness.
Whereas the joyful forms of stress ere on excitement, breaking new personal records of achievement, where you love your work enough to welcome each day in readiness to meet and greet what the day has in store, while welcoming challenges to test and develop personal growth (nothing stands still, we either grow or wither and if it’s the latter you know it because you don’t feel so great about yourself and your life).
But the not so great type of stress is the one that makes you feel less about yourself, the inner voice beats you up, beats up on others, at least mentally. And this develops the not-so-great-strategies of blaming outside forces, which saves us from having to look inside for answers.
This also leads to being pulled and pushed every which way in order to respond to others demands that leave you feeling drained and negative, rather than being proactive and making choices that feed you (and others) positively.
How do you counter it in your life?
What alternative strategies do you have in your life to counter the overwhelm of stressful situations, people, work situations, home life situations, because the facts are:
We all need to develop better strategies for leading a calmer life
As soon as you start to look at this whole area of the stresses in your life differently, you gain a new perspective, and things change.
We often need help to make the leap and that’s nothing to be ashamed of, on this side of the fence and remembering how my emotional health was before discovering these tools, I know it’s sadder not to do something about what’s not working for you. Why suffer in silence, no seriously ask yourself that question, and who benefits?
Only you can do it. Truth!
There’s only you who lives in your head, and it doesn’t matter how close you are to others, even your very nearest and dearest, you can only deal with your own malarky, as I like to call it, of course I might well choose another word (to emphasise the point) if we were speaking face-to-face.
Yet it’s the place we don’t want to go, and create all manner of self-deception strategies in order to avoid going there. But actually going there is the best gift you can give yourself when it comes to feeling good about yourself and having the necessary reserves of energy that you need to complete each day.
What you can do instead
You might want to consider some of these as alternative strategies instead of whatever you’ve got going on at the moment.
Meditation: or some form of stillness that brings you out of the maze that is part of down-spiraling feelings of being out of control, just taking a small amount of time out for you once, ideally twice a day, is probably the biggest gift you can give yourself.
Exercise: where you take some time to do something you really love that moves your body, if you make yourself carry out a form of exercise you don’t like, that will only add to your stress levels, so it must be something you can look forward to.
Eating regularly: by having a breakfast, lunch and dinner spaced out over equally based intervals. Go for longer lasting carbohydrate type foods, i.e. a slow release carbohydrate based breakfast cereal will keep you going until lunchtime without any hunger pangs and keep your stress levels at bay. Eat sensibly, you know what to do, avoid any dietary labelled products; they just fill you with more stress-based non-nutrients that confuse your digestive system. And this way you can eat far more than you may realise if you’ve been beating yourself up on the weight loss front.
See a professional: if you have emotional stuff going on, go and see a professional to get those feelings, thoughts, memories and imaginings out of your system. It’s okay to get free of unwanted emotions, whatever caused it, because feelings of; guilt, shame, anger, sadness, etc are better out than in. The past is the past and the only way to grow from it is to move on, but moving on is best done by learning from past lessons. We all need this.
Be kind: to yourself and others, learn to forgive others and their limitations as we each have our own. And be grateful for what you have, even when you think you have little, once you put your head above the parapet you’ll start to notice those who are worse off. This helps you better notice what’s working in your life, rather than what’s not working as you’d like it (at the moment). You can change anything you wish were different, it’s just about taking the time to take some time out and decide how you want to do it.
What to do next
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